My first child was born 6 years ago in March. I was 23 and my husband and I had only been married for less than two years. Needless to say, this was not apart of our 5 year plan. Getting pregnant a year into marriage was not the easiest thing, but you gotta roll with the punches. (My daughter being born 14 months later was not a part of that plan either, but that is a whole other discussion).
I was a young mom, who was one of the first of her friends to get pregnant. My closest friends still don’t have kids! Since my friends didn’t have kids, I was the first one to go through this.
As a part of the Natural Living Blog Carnival, I have written a letter to pre-baby self, with advice I wish I had known.
Dear Pre-Baby Me,
Life is going to change in a big way; more than you are going to want it to.
There will be times when
…you are going to regret having kids so young.
…you are going to be treated differently by your friends since they don’t have kids.
…you are going to be afraid.
There are scary times as a mom, but just remember that there are great times as well.
You will make good and cautious decisions.
You will learn a lot about yourself.
You will say really funny things as a mom…most of which will make you laugh out loud after you say them.
You will be more adventurous.
Many things are going to change, but know that your kids are going to turn out all right. Your family will grow and learn love each other and enjoy spending time together. Even though you will have kids young and close together, they will love each other and enjoy playing together. Life is going to through many adventures your way, but know that you are strong and you are capable of handling this.
You will learn a lot from other moms, then you will be able to help other moms. Mommy wisdom is a continuous cycle; learn to receive it and share it. Everybody (!!!) will tell you something at some point, that makes you think “really?”, “what?”, etc. Take everything with a grain of salt and ultimately go with your gut (and researched) decision. It’s also okay to ask for help.
Good luck and trust yourself,